Tujh ko dekha phir us ko na dekha
تجھ کو دیکھا پھر اُس کو نہ دیکھا
Chaand kehta hi raha, main chaand hoon, main chaand hoon
چاند کہتا ہی رہا، میں چاند ہوں، میں چاند ہوں
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Jinhein main samajhti hi nahin mad-e-muqabil apna
جنہیں میں سمجھتی ہی نہیں مد مقابل اپنا
Wohi log mukhalif hue phirte hain mere
وہی لوگ مخالف ھوے پھرتے ہیں میرے
One can argue that even if the decisions we make are fear based, we are still making a choice by making that decision. In other words, even if it’s a choice out of fear, it’s still a choice; but that’s not what this quote is about.
Whenever we make decisions, and behave in ways that are driven by fear, we are no longer in control, we are no longer feeling that we have a choice, we are no longer operating with integrity, and we are no longer demonstrating authenticity.
Decisions that are fear based are emotional, and therefore, irrational. They are driven by the need to survive instead of the desire to thrive, which would shift the impact of these decisions dramatically.
When we make a fear-based decision, we feel forced to make it; we feel like we have no choice. It feels like an internal coercion.
A fear-based decision contaminates intention by forcing us to fixate on threat avoidance; it clouds are judgment, and hinders our progress.
Before making a decision, ask yourself:”Is it fear based?”, and if the answer is “yes.”, delay making it until you dissolve the fear linked to it, or until you find an alternative decision that is not fear based.
-Sam Qureshi
Main bhejta rehta hoon use khaali lifaafe
میں بھجتا رہتا ہوں اسے خالی لفافے
Woh shakhs kahin mera pata na bhool jaaye
وہ شخص کہیں میرا پتا نہ بھول جائے
Sach kaha tha mere ustaad ne, bohat na-laaiq hoon main
سچ کہا تھا میرے استاد نے، بہت نالائق ہوں میں
Poori raat guzar jaati hai ek hi shakhs ko yaad karte karte
پوری رات گزر جاتی ہے ایک ہی شخص کو یاد کرتے کرتے
Tanha raaton mein yahi hai mashghala apna
تنہا راتوں میں یہی ہے مشغلہ اپنا
Laga ke teek takiye se use bas sochte rehna
لگا کے ٹیک تکیے سے اُسے بس سوچتے رہنا
Tera har andaaz achha hai
تیرا ہر انداز اچھا ہے
Siwaaye nazar andaaz karne ke
سوائے نظر انداز کرنے کے
Yeh rang chehre ke aur khwab apni aankhon ke
یہ رنگ چہرے کے اور خواب اپنی آنکھوں کے
Hawa chale koi aisi, bikhar na jaayein kahin
ہوا چلے کوئی ایسی، بکھر نہ جائیں کہیں
Jhalak raha hai jin aankhon se ab wajood mera
جھلک رہا ہے جن آنکھوں سے اب وجود مرا
Yeh aankhein haaye, yeh aankhein makar na jaayein kahin
یہ آنکھیں ہائے، یہ آنکھیں مکر نہ جائیں کہیں
Tarapta raha dil be-hisaab, dhadkanein thin laa-taadad
تڑپتا رہا دل بے حساب، دھڑکنیں تھیں لا تعداد
Sochta raha teri badgumani ka, kaise karwa apna daaman saaf
سوچتا رہا تیری بدگمانی کا، کیسے کروا اپنا دامن صاف
There are five ways that we can use to handle our negative thoughts:
1. Focusing on serving others:
By focusing on helping others, we won’t have time to focus on our own negative thoughts about ourselves. This is a form of distraction; it can help, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
2. Taking progressive action of any kind:
By focusing on doing, we would be too distracted to focus on thinking. Any progressive action can help, but the most effective ones are the ones related to the negative thoughts themselves. In other words, if the actions can help address or resolve the negative thoughts specifically, that can help reduce their intensity, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
3. Journaling:
Journaling is a powerful tool to empty our minds, and temporarily release our negative thoughts on a daily basis, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
4. Reframing:
Through role play, dialogue, and visualization, we can directly engage with our negative thoughts to understand them and reframe them. That can help lower their intensity, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
5. Dissolving the negative emotions that gave birth to the negative thoughts in the first place:
All previous ways focus on the negative thoughts instead of their origin. They are helpful, but they don’t provide a permanent solution; they only provide a way to manage the existing problem. However, by dissolving the negative emotions that created the negative thoughts, we are permanently eliminating them.
-Sam Qureshi