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The Root of Thinking
The Root of Thinking

The Root of Thinking

June 1, 2025 / / 0 Comments

There are five ways that we can use to handle our negative thoughts:

1. Focusing on serving others:
By focusing on helping others, we won’t have time to focus on our own negative thoughts about ourselves. This is a form of distraction; it can help, but it doesn’t solve the problem.

2. Taking progressive action of any kind:
By focusing on doing, we would be too distracted to focus on thinking. Any progressive action can help, but the most effective ones are the ones related to the negative thoughts themselves. In other words, if the actions can help address or resolve the negative thoughts specifically, that can help reduce their intensity, but it doesn’t solve the problem.

3. Journaling:
Journaling is a powerful tool to empty our minds, and temporarily release our negative thoughts on a daily basis, but it doesn’t solve the problem.

4. Reframing:
Through role play, dialogue, and visualization, we can directly engage with our negative thoughts to understand them and reframe them. That can help lower their intensity, but it doesn’t solve the problem.

5. Dissolving the negative emotions that gave birth to the negative thoughts in the first place:
All previous ways focus on the negative thoughts instead of their origin. They are helpful, but they don’t provide a permanent solution; they only provide a way to manage the existing problem. However, by dissolving the negative emotions that created the negative thoughts, we are permanently eliminating them.

-Sam Qureshi

Teri justuju mein nikle to ajab saraab dekhe

May 31, 2025 / / 0 Comments

Teri justuju mein nikle to ajab saraab dekhe
تیری جستجو میں نکلے تو عجب سراب دیکھے

Kabhi shab ko din kaha, kabhi din ko khwab dekhe
کبھی شب کو دن کہا، کبھی دن کو خواب دیکھے

Mujhe dekhna ho jisko mere haal par na jaye
مجھے دیکھنا ہو جس کو میرے حال پر نہ جائے

Mera zauk o shauq dekhe, mera intikhaab dekhe
میرا ذوق و شوق دیکھے، میرا انتخاب دیکھے

Teri justuju mein nikle to ajab saraab dekhe
Teri justuju mein nikle to ajab saraab dekhe
The Importance of Unrealistic Dreams
The Importance of Unrealistic Dreams

The Importance of Unrealistic Dreams

May 31, 2025 / / 0 Comments

By choosing to be realistic, we are limiting our imagination of what’s possible.

By limiting our imagination of what’s possible, we limit the potential reality we can create. In this context, reality would mean solutions to problems, healthy relationships with others, achievement of desired outcomes, effortless engagement with the world around us, and a deep sense of safety and peace within.

When it comes to problem solving, the more permission we give ourselves to be unrealistic with the solutions we come up with, the more likely we are to break any existing limitations in that moment, that may prevent us from accessing our creativity, in a way that allows us to find a definitive solution.

When it comes to goal setting, it’s not about having a realistic dream. It’s about having an unrealistic dream with a realistic plan. In other words, realism needs to be utilized at the right time; and in this case, it would be after giving ourselves unconditional permission to imagine and internally create.

Realism contaminates goals when it interferes with our ability to unapologetically express the truth about what we want. However, if we use it to express the truth about our current reality and how we feel, and to craft a plan to achieve our dreams, then realism can accelerate our progress instead of impede it.

-Sam Qureshi

Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada kis cheez se dar lagta hai
Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada kis cheez se dar lagta hai

Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada kis cheez se dar lagta hai

May 30, 2025 / / 0 Comments

Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada kis cheez se dar lagta hai
تم جانتی ہو صوفیا اس زندگی میں مجھے سب سے زیادہ کس چیز سے ڈر لگتا ہے

Na beemari se na tanhaayi se na hi khud maut se
نہ بیماری سے نہ تنہائی سے نہ ہی خود موت سے

Balkay is khayaal se ke poori zindagi yun hi guzar jaye
بلکہ اس خیال سے کہ پوری زندگی یوں ہی گزر جائے

Baghair kisi haqeeqi ehsas ke baghair is baat ka idraak kiye ke main waqai zinda tha
بغیر کسی حقیقی احساس کے بغیر اس بات کا ادراک کیے کہ میں واقعی زندہ تھا

Kisi din jaag kar yeh sochna ke maine kabhi dil se nahi hansa
کسی دن جاگ کر یہ سوچنا کہ میں نے کبھی دل سے نہیں ہنسا

Deewana waar mohabbat nahi ki dard se cheekha nahi roya nahi
دیوانہ وار محبت نہیں کی درد سے چیخا نہیں رویا نہیں

Ke zindagi bas ek yaksaa silsila rahi
کہ زندگی بس ایک یکساں سلسلہ رہی

Jis mein na koi hairat thi na koi jazba na koi shiddat
جس میں نہ کوئی حیرت تھی نہ کوئی جذبہ نہ کوئی شدت

Ke meri ragoon mein zindagi hi nahi thi
کہ میری رگوں میں زندگی ہی نہیں تھی

Kya yeh asal maut nahi
کیا یہ اصل موت نہیں

The Nun – Anton Chekhov se iqtibaas
دی نون – انتون چیخوف سے اقتباس

Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada
Tum jaanti ho Sofia is zindagi mein mujhe sab se zyada

Chalo Mohsin mohabbat ki nai bunyaad rakhte hain

May 30, 2025 / / 0 Comments

Chalo Mohsin mohabbat ki nai bunyaad rakhte hain
چلو محسن محبت کی نئی بنیاد رکھتے ہیں

Khud paband rehte hain usay azaad rakhte hain
خود پابند رہتے ہیں اُسے آزاد رکھتے ہیں

Hamare khoon mein Rab ne yahi taseer rakhi hai
ہمارے خون میں رب نے یہی تاثیر رکھی ہے

Burai bhool jaate hain, achhai yaad rakhte hain
برائی بھول جاتے ہیں، اچھائی یاد رکھتے ہیں

Mohabbat mein kahin hum se gustakhi na ho jaaye
محبت میں کہیں ہم سے گستاخی نہ ہوجائے

Hum apna har qadam us ke qadam ke baad rakhte hain
ہم اپنا ہر قدم اُس کے قدم کے بعد رکھتے ہیں

Chalo Mohsin mohabbat ki nai bunyaad rakhte hain
Chalo Mohsin mohabbat ki nai bunyaad rakhte hain
Kindness Isn't Weakness
Kindness Isn't Weakness

Kindness Isn’t Weakness

May 30, 2025 / / 0 Comments

Kindness is not weakness. Unfortunately, many of us have learned to avoid practicing kindness out of fear of its misinterpretation.

One of the reasons for this reservation is the epidemic of people-pleasing that stems from emotional wounds that lead to this mass fawning as an adaptation.

Fawning is one of the four fight or flight responses. To be honest, it’s more of a reaction than it is a response. It’s a form of submission in an attempt to avoid the potential threat. In this case, the threat would be abuse or abandonment.

The tragedy here is because it works so well in avoiding threats, or at least minimizing the pain that may be inflicted by a threat, it becomes, unconsciously, a compelling behavior to adopt. More importantly, it’s effectiveness can blind us from seeing the gradual destructive impact it has on our mental health.

What it indirectly enables is the avoidance of authenticity out of fear of the consequences of being authentic. By fawning, we are compromising our integrity, and detaching from our authentic self.

The solution is not to avoid kindness out of fear of pain, but to embrace it in spite of the potential pain, and enforce our boundaries when our compassionate actions are misinterpreted as an invitation for abuse.

-Sam Qureshi

Actions Speak Louder Than Feelings? Think Again
Actions Speak Louder Than Feelings? Think Again

Actions Speak Louder Than Feelings? Think Again

May 30, 2025 / / 0 Comments

When people violate our boundaries, whether it’s intentional or not, they are demonstrating pain and fear. The actions of others don’t reveal who they are; they reveal the emotions they feel.

We are emotional beings that are driven by how we feel. What we want to pursue, and what we want to avoid are both determined by how we feel.

We sometimes make the mistake of defining a person by their actions, when they might just be temporary expressions of pain.

We unintentionally condition others to repeat an action through defining them by it. An act of laziness doesn’t make the person lazy, and an act of evasiveness doesn’t make the person a coward; but the moment someone believes through social conditioning that they are what they do, their actions become their identity.

If I define myself by my behavior, then my behavior becomes my identity. Once it becomes my identity, it becomes much harder to change. The reason for that is simple: in order for me to change what I do, I now have to change who I am. As a result, change becomes a much bigger task. After all, behavior is simple and tangible, identity isn’t.

-Sam Qureshi

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