Kuch tum ko bhi aziz hain apney sabhi asool,
kuch hum bhi itafaq sey zidd key mareez hain
کچھ تم کو بھی عزیز ہیں اپنے سبھی اصول
کچھ ہم بھی اتفاق سے ضد کے مریض ہیں
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میں خواہشوں کہ عذاب لے کر چلا گیا
دل وہ خانہ خراب لے کر چلا گیا
میں چھوڑ کر انی راہ تکتی اداس آنکھیں
جو بچ گئے تھے وہ خواب لے کر چلا گیا
جس پر میں نے محبتوں کی وحی لکھی تھی
وہ ایک ممنوع کتاب لے کر چلا گیا
بس ایک اجل کو سنا گیا ہوں جو داستاں تھی
میں زندگی سے حساب لے کر چلا گیا
میں قافلوں کو دیکھا گیا نشانِ منظر
میں راستوں کہ سراب لے کر چلا گیا
انہیں کہو میں ڈھونڈنے سے نہیں ملوں گا
میں گردے راہ کی خاک لے کر چلا گیا۔۔۔۔۔
Main khwahishon ke azaab le kar chala gaya
Dil woh khana kharab le kar chala gaya
Main chhod kar apni raah takti udaas aankhein
Jo bach gaye thay woh khawab le kar chala gaya
Jis par main ne mohabbatoun ki wahi likhi thi
Woh aik mamnoo’ kitaab le kar chala gaya
Bas aik ajal ko suna gaya hoon jo dastaan thi
Main zindagi se hisaab le kar chala gaya
Main qafilon ko dekha gaya nishan-e-manzar
Main raaston ke saraab le kar chala gaya
Unhein kaho main dhoondhne se nahi milunga
Main gard-e-rah ki khaak le kar chala gaya
We feel safe, when we are not threatened, but what’s fascinating to me is that we can feel threatened in the absence of an existing threat.
For example, if we feel scarcity, incompetence, lack of clarity, loss of control, incongruence, resistance, stagnation, or the presence of a consequence, we may no longer feel safe; and what’s the place that we know can give us our safety back? The comfort zone, and here’s why…
Comfort distracts us and temporarily isolates us from the consequences that await us beyond it.
It’s just a sedative, but an extremely effective one. It’s so effective that many of us use it so frequently, that it ends up becoming a destination instead of a vehicle to escape the pain of the journey.
We all have different ways of accessing it, but the way it distracts us is not my main concern here. The real problem of comfort lies in the way it shapes our relationship with the unknown.
Here’s what I mean, comfort is the barrier that separates us from the unknown. Whenever we are separated from something, it could mean deprivation or protection, but regardless of the reason for the separation, the unfolding detachment shapes our relationship with what we have been detached from.
In this case, we’re either being deprived of the unknown, or protected from it. However, the illusion of safety, that comfort provides, suggests to the unconscious mind that what we are separated from is a threat.
In other words, we have learned to perceive comfort as something that can protect us from the unknown, and whatever we need protection from will be perceived as an enemy, which is how comfort can create a false sense of safety within us.
That is one of the biggest lies that we were ever told.
-Sam Qureshi
She sat at the back and they said she was shy,
She led from the front and they hated her pride,
They asked her advice and then questioned her guidance, They branded her loud, then were shocked by her silence,
When she shared no ambition they said it was sad,
So she told them her dreams and they said she was mad,
They told her they’d listen, then covered their ears,
And gave her a hug while they laughed at her fears,
And she listened to all of it thinking she should,
Be the girl they told her to be best as she could,
But one day she asked what was best for herself,
Instead of trying to please everyone else,
So she walked to the forest and stood with the trees,
She heard the wind whisper and dance with the leaves,
She spoke to the willow, the elm and the pine,
And she told them what she’d been told time after time,
She told them she felt she was never enough,
She was either too little or far far too much,
Too loud or too quiet, too fierce or too weak,
Too wise or too foolish, too bold or too meek,
Then she found a small clearing surrounded by firs,
And she stopped…and she heard what the trees said to her,
And she sat there for hours not wanting to leave,
For the forest said nothing. It just let her breathe.’
Becky Helmsley
📷 – Platon Yurich
- To solve an issue quickly, be soft on the person and hard on the problem.
- Pretend everyone was sent to teach you something.
- Pause in speaking + eye contact = confidence.
- Make people feel important with the SHR Method: Seen, Heard, Remembered.
- A person’s favorite sound is their name, so remember it (h/t Dale Carnegie).
- “Praise publicly. Criticize privately.” —Warren Buffett
- To give feedback, first make the other person feel you care about them.
- “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” —Neil Strauss
- The best networking strategy is a helping others first strategy.
- Loneliness is a silent pandemic; assume people want to meet you,
- Practice going first, e.g., “Hi, I’m Ben.”
- Build the habit of responding with “Yes, and” because it advances their idea.
- Avoid complaining or gossiping (nobody likes to hear it ).
- Storytelling is a superpower; use a structure like setup, tension, & resolution.
- Every dog has its day because dogs are friendly (lesson in there).
- “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” —E. Perel
- To discover blindspots, build an inner circle that will give you honest feedback.
- Normalize “I don’t know anything about that yet” as a successful answer.
- Record and study your speaking like an athlete watching game film.
- “Great leaders create more leaders, not followers.” —Roy T. Bennett
Allowing even one toxic person into your life can dramatically reduce the quality of your life.
The behavior of those we surround ourselves with “primes” the way we will operate. Research confirms that if a student lives with someone who studies seriously, they adopt the same behavior.
People who spend time with others who gossip, watch tragic news, and consume toxic television begin to behave similarly. The reality is that human beings are hardwired for daily mimicry. So, choose your associations well.
-Robin sharma
Every situation has a positive side and a negative side.
In truth, the universe has a built-in duality – there is peace and war, kindness and cruelty, support and challenge, youth and age, poverty and wealth, joy and sorrow, solitude and multitude, and failure and success. They all exist as pairs throughout all aspects of life.
It isn’t possible to experience just one aspect, whether positive or negative.
Seeking a one-sided life is futile, draining and disempowering, and it will hinder you from achieving your inspired dreams.
The alternative? Learn to honor both aspects within every moment.
This is what I train people to do at my seminar The Breakthrough Experience.
When you see both sides of life, you become poised, present, purposeful, objective, resilient and adaptable.
Mastering the art of seeing both sides is the art of true mind mastery which leads ultimately to life mastery.
-Dr john martini
علاوہ میرے ہر اک شخص نور نکلے گا
میں جانتا ہوں مرا ہی قصور نکلے گا
یہ خوب ہم سے زمانے نے ضد لگائی ہے
ہوا نہ میرا جو اس کا ضرور نکلے گا
خبر مجھے تھی یہ رستہ نہیں ہے منزل کا
گمان کب تھا کہ خود سے بھی دور نکلے گا
ہے رہزنوں سے رعایت یہ خاص منصف کی
کہ قافلوں کا ہی لٹ کر قصور نکلے گا
اسی امید پہ اب اور کتنی عمریں جیوں
کہ جینا لازماً اک دن سرور نکلے گا
علاج ڈھونڈا تو ڈھونڈا عجب طبیبوں نے
یہ جان نکلے تو دل کا فتور نکلے گا
ہزار بدلو مگر آئینوں کے بس میں نہیں
یہ عکس میرا یونہی چُور چُور نکلے گا
نشہ ہے عارضی ابرک یہ چاہے جانے کا
تمہارے دل سے بھی جلدی غرور نکلے گا
Alaawa mere har ek shakhs noor nikalay ga
Main jaanta hoon mera hi qusoor nikalay ga
Yeh khoob hum se zamaane ne zid lagayi hai
Hua na mera jo uska zaroor nikalay ga
Khabar mujhe thi yeh rasta nahi hai manzil ka
Gumaan kab tha ke khud se bhi door nikalay ga
Hai rahzanon se riayat yeh khaas munsif ki
Ke qafilon ka hi lut kar qusoor nikalay ga
Isi umeed pe ab aur kitni umrein jeen
Ke jeena laazman aik din suroor nikalay ga
Ilaj dhoonda to dhoonda ajab tabeebon ne
Yeh jaan nikalay to dil ka fitoor nikalay ga
Hazaar badlo magar aaineon ke bas mein nahi
Yeh aks mera yunhi choor choor nikalay ga
Nasha hai aabri abark yeh chahe jaane ka
Tumhare dil se bhi jaldi ghoroor nikalay ga
I have read many books in my life, but I don’t remember most of the information I gained from them. So, what’s the benefit of reading so many books?
One day, a student asked his professor the same question. The professor remained silent and didn’t answer that day. A few days later, the student and professor met by a river. The professor showed the student a pot with holes and said, “Let’s go get water from the river with this pot.” The pot broke on the ground. The student felt confused, thinking it was a useless task, as it was impossible to carry water with a pot full of holes.
However, he couldn’t disobey his professor’s advice, so he picked up the broken pot and ran towards the river. He filled the pot with water and brought it back, but he couldn’t go far. A few steps later, the water leaked out of the holes and fell to the ground. He tried several times but failed and felt frustrated.
Afterward, he returned to his professor and said, “I failed. I couldn’t bring water in this pot. It’s impossible for me; please forgive me.” The professor smiled sweetly and said, “You didn’t fail. Look at the pot; it’s clean now. It looks like a new pot. Whenever the water leaks out of the holes, the dirt inside the pot is washed away. The same thing happens to you. When you read a book, your mind is like the pot with holes, and the information in the book is like the water. When you read a book, you don’t remember everything. But is it necessary to remember all the content? No, because reading books gives you ideas, knowledge, feelings, emotions, and truths that cleanse your mind.
Whenever you read a book, you undergo a spiritual transformation, and you are reborn as a new person. This is the main purpose of reading books.”