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Actions Speak Louder Than Feelings? Think Again

May 30, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

When people violate our boundaries, whether it’s intentional or not, they are demonstrating pain and fear. The actions of others don’t reveal who they are; they reveal the emotions they feel.

We are emotional beings that are driven by how we feel. What we want to pursue, and what we want to avoid are both determined by how we feel.

We sometimes make the mistake of defining a person by their actions, when they might just be temporary expressions of pain.

We unintentionally condition others to repeat an action through defining them by it. An act of laziness doesn’t make the person lazy, and an act of evasiveness doesn’t make the person a coward; but the moment someone believes through social conditioning that they are what they do, their actions become their identity.

If I define myself by my behavior, then my behavior becomes my identity. Once it becomes my identity, it becomes much harder to change. The reason for that is simple: in order for me to change what I do, I now have to change who I am. As a result, change becomes a much bigger task. After all, behavior is simple and tangible, identity isn’t.

-Sam Qureshi

Don’t Let Criticism Define You: A Guide to Self-Protection

May 30, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

When someone continues to be critical in your presence, that can lead to self-doubt. It can cause you to start asking yourself: “What’s wrong with me?”, “What did I do to deserve this?”, “Why is this happening to me?”, or “Why am I not good enough?”.

The problem here lies in being indirectly conditioned to focus on the false reality that has been painted for you, which is “There’s something wrong with me”. It can make sense because if someone is pointing out a flaw, then it must be true, and it must mean that something needs fixing, and that something is less than ideal. However, in most cases, the flaw is false, or irrelevant if true.

This brings us to a very important point, even if the flaw is important to be addressed, it’s usually not their right to share it with you without your permission.

If someone gives you advice that involves criticism without asking for your permission first, that reveals a desperate need that they have to convey significance, which reveals an emotional wound they’re continuing to carry.

Their criticism doesn’t reveal what you need to fix, but what they need to heal. In other words, criticizing you doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you, it just means that there’s something painful in them.

-Sam Qureshi

Emotional Damage: Why Apologies Aren’t a Quick Fix

May 30, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

If someone affected you emotionally in a negative way, it would be in one of two ways: neglect or abuse. Abuse can be verbal, nonverbal, physical, or sexual. Unfortunately, people can underestimate the emotional impact of verbal and nonverbal abuse.

Let’s say that someone has been verbally abusive to you, that would be similar to them smashing the windshield of your car.

If they then come up to you an apologize, it might feel good, you might feel a bit better, but that does not change the fact that the car needs repairing.

When it comes to emotions, most of us would receive the apology, and continue to drive the car despite the presence of a smashed windshield.

If we believe that the apology would repair the damage inside of us, we would no longer be able to see it, but we would still be affected by it. After all, receiving an apology for what happened does not eliminate the emotional impact of what happened.

What’s interesting here is that most people
do not care about repairing the car as much as they care about receiving the apology. The reason is that they believe that the apology would resolve the conflict and heal the wound, which is not the case. An apology can help in resolving the conflict, and can help in healing, but it does not heal the wound.

In other words, what drives the need to receive an apology is the emotional pain we feel because of what happened.

-Sam Qureshi

Beyond the Comfort Zone

May 29, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

We feel safe, when we are not threatened, but what’s fascinating to me is that we can feel threatened in the absence of an existing threat.

For example, if we feel scarcity, incompetence, lack of clarity, loss of control, incongruence, resistance, stagnation, or the presence of a consequence, we may no longer feel safe; and what’s the place that we know can give us our safety back? The comfort zone, and here’s why…

Comfort distracts us and temporarily isolates us from the consequences that await us beyond it.

It’s just a sedative, but an extremely effective one. It’s so effective that many of us use it so frequently, that it ends up becoming a destination instead of a vehicle to escape the pain of the journey.

We all have different ways of accessing it, but the way it distracts us is not my main concern here. The real problem of comfort lies in the way it shapes our relationship with the unknown.

Here’s what I mean, comfort is the barrier that separates us from the unknown. Whenever we are separated from something, it could mean deprivation or protection, but regardless of the reason for the separation, the unfolding detachment shapes our relationship with what we have been detached from.

In this case, we’re either being deprived of the unknown, or protected from it. However, the illusion of safety, that comfort provides, suggests to the unconscious mind that what we are separated from is a threat.

In other words, we have learned to perceive comfort as something that can protect us from the unknown, and whatever we need protection from will be perceived as an enemy, which is how comfort can create a false sense of safety within us.

That is one of the biggest lies that we were ever told.

-Sam Qureshi

She sat at the back and they said she was shy

May 29, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

She sat at the back and they said she was shy,
She led from the front and they hated her pride,

They asked her advice and then questioned her guidance, They branded her loud, then were shocked by her silence,

When she shared no ambition they said it was sad,
So she told them her dreams and they said she was mad,

They told her they’d listen, then covered their ears,
And gave her a hug while they laughed at her fears,

And she listened to all of it thinking she should,
Be the girl they told her to be best as she could,

But one day she asked what was best for herself,
Instead of trying to please everyone else,

So she walked to the forest and stood with the trees,
She heard the wind whisper and dance with the leaves,

She spoke to the willow, the elm and the pine,
And she told them what she’d been told time after time,

She told them she felt she was never enough,
She was either too little or far far too much,

Too loud or too quiet, too fierce or too weak,
Too wise or too foolish, too bold or too meek,

Then she found a small clearing surrounded by firs,
And she stopped…and she heard what the trees said to her,

And she sat there for hours not wanting to leave,
For the forest said nothing. It just let her breathe.’

Becky Helmsley
📷 – Platon Yurich

HEALTH

The Hidden Threat to Your Well-being

May 28, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

The Hidden Threat to Your Well-being
Allowing even one toxic person into your life can dramatically reduce the quality of your life.

The behavior of those we surround ourselves with “primes” the way we will operate. Research confirms that if a student lives with someone who studies seriously, they adopt the same behavior.

People who spend time with others who gossip, watch tragic news, and consume toxic television begin to behave similarly. The reality is that human beings are hardwired for daily mimicry. So, choose your associations well.

-Robin sharma

Key to Personal Growth

May 28, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

Every situation has a positive side and a negative side.

In truth, the universe has a built-in duality – there is peace and war, kindness and cruelty, support and challenge, youth and age, poverty and wealth, joy and sorrow, solitude and multitude, and failure and success. They all exist as pairs throughout all aspects of life.

It isn’t possible to experience just one aspect, whether positive or negative.

Seeking a one-sided life is futile, draining and disempowering, and it will hinder you from achieving your inspired dreams.

The alternative? Learn to honor both aspects within every moment.

This is what I train people to do at my seminar The Breakthrough Experience.

When you see both sides of life, you become poised, present, purposeful, objective, resilient and adaptable.

Mastering the art of seeing both sides is the art of true mind mastery which leads ultimately to life mastery.

-Dr john martini

Reading Books is a journey of growth

May 28, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

I have read many books in my life, but I don’t remember most of the information I gained from them. So, what’s the benefit of reading so many books?

One day, a student asked his professor the same question. The professor remained silent and didn’t answer that day. A few days later, the student and professor met by a river. The professor showed the student a pot with holes and said, “Let’s go get water from the river with this pot.” The pot broke on the ground. The student felt confused, thinking it was a useless task, as it was impossible to carry water with a pot full of holes.

However, he couldn’t disobey his professor’s advice, so he picked up the broken pot and ran towards the river. He filled the pot with water and brought it back, but he couldn’t go far. A few steps later, the water leaked out of the holes and fell to the ground. He tried several times but failed and felt frustrated.

Afterward, he returned to his professor and said, “I failed. I couldn’t bring water in this pot. It’s impossible for me; please forgive me.” The professor smiled sweetly and said, “You didn’t fail. Look at the pot; it’s clean now. It looks like a new pot. Whenever the water leaks out of the holes, the dirt inside the pot is washed away. The same thing happens to you. When you read a book, your mind is like the pot with holes, and the information in the book is like the water. When you read a book, you don’t remember everything. But is it necessary to remember all the content? No, because reading books gives you ideas, knowledge, feelings, emotions, and truths that cleanse your mind.

Whenever you read a book, you undergo a spiritual transformation, and you are reborn as a new person. This is the main purpose of reading books.”

Khuda ke doston ki andheri raat

May 27, 2025 / Admin / 0 Comments

Khuda ke doston ki andheri raat bhi roz roshan ki tareh chamkti hai

…خدا کے دوستوں کی اندھیری رات بھی روز روشن کی طرح چمکتی ہے

~ahman

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